We all remember the joys of getting presents as a child.  Who could forget the brightly painted wrapping paper flying everywhere, the bows and the cards, and finally under all of that, a gift that has been long waited for.  It is a truly unique pleasure, as a child, to get a new toy or game.  But as we get older, it changes.  It becomes less about the present that you get and more about the connection that you feel to the person who gave it to you.  The idea that it is not the gift but the thought that counts does not really hold for children, but it becomes more and more true as we get into adulthood.  This is why, sitting here and trying to pick out a 50th birthday present for my wife, I am rethinking the approach that I usually take to getting a gift.

A 50th birthday present marks a momentous occasion in the life of a loved one.  It is always hard to get a 50th birthday present for someone, but it is doubly hard when that someone is the person that you have chosen to spend your whole life with.  In most cases, people opt to get some kind of corny 50th birthday gift, something that is safe and humorous.  Most 50th birthday presents that I've seen come with a card that has some joke about being “over the hill”.  In every other way, the 50th birthday present is usually the same as any birthday gift you would get for someone.

But I wanted the 50th birthday present I got for my wife to be something special.  I was not happy just getting her a book, or some jewelry, or some clothing, or a trip to some exotic location.  We do things like that for each other every year.  Sometimes, for a 50th birthday present, people will give a charitable donation to some organization in their honor.  I thought about this, but ultimately I decided against it.  We give, after all, a lot of money to charity.  Finally, I figured out what I wanted to give.  I sat down with all of our old photos and made a scrapbook.  It was not just a normal scrapbook, but one that was made to tell the story of our whole life together.  It took me weeks to finish, but when I was done it was beautiful.  I'm sure it will make a perfect 50th birthday present.